Stress - A Four Letter Word

Ahhh stress...

This has been a hot topic in my circle lately, making me realize that although most of us are aware of how important it is to manage stress, it is good to have reminders and tips on how to do so, and living a healthy life depends on it.

Stress is a bitch! And I'm not talking about the cute little Boston Terrier, I'm talking about the ferocious guard dog that wants to eat you for dinner. Our doctors tell us so; psychologists teach about coping with it; the news stations and magazines are constantly covering it. But still, it can be easy to forget to manage. It seems like stress is a sort of addiction for some people - like the bad train wreck you can't take your eyes off.

If I'm not worrying, there must be something to worry about...

Is this you? If so, don't feel bad. It's easy to fall into this pattern. As people we have the tendency to want to constantly reach higher and do better at what we are doing, and therefore we are constantly faced with challenges. And while setting goals and challenging ourselves are great actions in life, they can sometimes create stress. It is really important to remember to ENJOY life during the process - this means managing stress and maintaining balance as much as possible. It also means keeping our focus on what is really important. There is always something to worry about in life, no matter who you are or what your circumstances are - even a little bitty fly has something to worry about (gross!). But if we remember what is truly important to us, managing stress can become a whole lot easier and then worrying becomes a thing of the past.

There are big problems in life that require our attention and action, and then there are insignificant situations and small stuff that we sweat, creating the fabulous outcome of torturing ourselves. The first step in changing this 'stress until you mess' pattern is to know the difference between the two. To figure that out, I have found that it helps to ask yourself: how important is this problem, how much will this matter to me in one year or five years, and what is really at stake? If these answers suggest that you have a real issue on your hands, then take the energy you would use to stress out and channel it into a plan of action. By taking positive steps of action, the situation is on it's way to being worked out and stress reduction will follow (and sometimes just knowing that you are being proactive helps you to feel better). I know, this can be easier said than done - but like anything else, it just takes practice. While you are doing that I encourage you to read The Positivity Blog for some really good tips on how to be a relaxation ninja!

On the other hand, if you realize the you are torturing yourself and sweating the small stuff...stop! Please stop. There a far better oceans to swim in. Be aware of these tendencies, take a deep breath and center yourself. Then remember this quote: "If you want to test your memory, try recalling what you were worrying about one year ago today".

Here Here to Peace.